A potted herb is not a bouquet. It carries on, season after season, asking only for light, a little water, and the occasional trim. Here is what each of the twelve would like from you.
Most of these plants want one of two things. Some are Mediterranean by descent and want sun, grit and a dry spell between waterings. The rest are grown for soft leaves and want richer soil and a steadier drink. Learn which is which and you have learned most of it.
Whatever else you do, let the pot drain. Standing water is the one thing that no herb here forgives, and it takes far more of them than frost or neglect ever will.
Mediterranean by descent, and they never quite forget it. Give them the brightest spot you have, let the soil dry between drinks, and resist the urge to be generous. Lean and sunny is how they like it.
Rosemary · Thyme · Sage · Oregano · Marjoram · Lavender · Bay Laurel
Grown for soft leaves rather than woody stems, so they want richer soil and steadier moisture. Water before the pot dries out, pinch them back often, and they will keep giving you more.
Basil · Parsley · Mint · Lemon Balm
Calendula is the only flower among the twelve, and it keeps its own rules: sun, moderate water, and a season rather than a lifetime. Keep picking the blooms and it keeps making them.
Calendula
Ocimum basilicum
Love
Pinch from the top, just above a pair of leaves, and two new stems branch from the cut. Take flower buds off as they appear to keep the leaves coming.
Tomatoes, mozzarella, peaches, zucchini, good olive oil. Add it at the end; heat costs it its perfume.
Brush a leaf on your way past the pot. The scent stays on your fingers until lunch.
Never refrigerate cut basil, it turns black. Warmth is what it wants, right to the last leaf.
Laurus nobilis
Success
Pick single leaves whenever you need them. Older, darker leaves carry more flavor than the bright new growth.
Stocks, beans, lentils, tomato sauce, rice, anything that simmers. It works slowly, so add it at the beginning.
Drop a leaf in with the rice. You will only notice what it did the week you forget.
Bay grows slowly, so a small plant stays small for a good while. Always fish the leaf out before serving, it never softens.
Calendula officinalis
Health
Pick the flowers, and keep picking. Every bloom you cut or deadhead tells the plant to make another.
Scatter the petals over salads, soft cheese, butter or rice. It was once called poor man's saffron for the color it lends.
Cut one bloom for the kitchen windowsill. Another will have opened before it fades.
Calendula is an annual: one generous season, then it sets seed. Let a few flowers go over and you will have next year's plants for nothing.
Lavandula angustifolia
Devotion
Cut the stems just as the buds show color but before they fully open, when the scent is at its strongest.
Honey, lemon, shortbread, blueberries, roast lamb. Use a great deal less than you think, it turns soapy quickly.
Run your hand across the top of it on the way in the door.
Far more lavender is lost to wet roots than to cold. Prune after flowering, but never cut back into the bare old wood, it will not come back from it.
Melissa officinalis
Calm
Take whole stems from the outside and it fills back in from the middle. Youngest leaves have the cleanest lemon scent.
Teas hot and iced, fruit salad, fish, custard, summer drinks. Best used fresh, as it loses much of itself dried.
Crush a leaf into a glass of cold water on a hot afternoon.
It self-seeds enthusiastically and spreads by root. The pot is doing your garden a kindness.
Origanum majorana
Harmony
Snip stems above a leaf pair to keep it bushy. Best just before it flowers, when the oils are highest.
Eggs, mushrooms, carrots, chicken, soft cheeses. Sweeter and gentler than its cousin oregano.
Stir it in with the heat already off, and smell the difference that makes.
Easily confused with oregano on the shelf, but not in the mouth. Marjoram is the softer of the two and should be added late.
Mentha spicata
Virtue
Cut whole stems rather than picking single leaves; it branches from the cut and comes back thicker.
Peas, lamb, yoghurt, cucumber, chocolate, iced tea. Add it fresh and late.
A sprig standing in the water pitcher all through the summer.
Never plant mint in open ground unless you truly mean it. In a pot it is a delight; loose, it is a long-term commitment.
Origanum vulgare
Strength
Cut stems back by a third just before it flowers, which is when the leaves taste strongest.
Tomato, pizza, grilled meat, beans, feta. Robust enough to go in early and cook.
Hang a cut bunch in the kitchen to dry. It holds its scent right through the winter.
Oregano is one of the very few herbs that is better dried than fresh. Let a bunch hang for two weeks and see.
Petroselinum crispum
Festivity
Take the outer stems at the very base, never the crown. The center keeps producing all season.
Almost everything. Tabbouleh, gremolata, potatoes, fish, lentils, stock. Treat it as a vegetable, not a garnish.
Chop far more of it than the recipe asks for.
Parsley is a biennial: in its second year it flowers, turns bitter and stops. Start a new pot each spring.
Rosmarinus officinalis
Remembrance
Snip the soft green tips rather than the woody stems. Take no more than a third of the plant at once.
Potatoes, lamb, focaccia, white beans, roast chicken, lemon. Strong enough to stand up to long cooking.
A sprig in your coat pocket on a cold walk, crushed between finger and thumb.
If in doubt, do not water it. Rosemary forgives drought far more readily than wet feet.
Salvia officinalis
Wisdom
Pick individual leaves as needed. Go gently in the first year and let the plant build itself first.
Brown butter, squash, pork, white beans, stuffing. Fried whole until crisp, it becomes something else entirely.
Fry a few leaves in butter until they crisp, and eat them standing at the stove.
Sage turns woody after three or four years and slows down. Take a cutting in spring and you need never buy another.
Thymus vulgaris
Courage
Shear whole sprigs with scissors rather than stripping leaves. Trim after flowering to keep it from going woody.
Chicken, mushrooms, root vegetables, stock, eggs, lemon. Add the sprigs whole and pull the bare stems out later.
Let it flower once, and watch how quickly the bees find it.
Sharp drainage matters far more than feeding. A hungry thyme in gritty soil tastes better than a pampered one.